This is probably and is most certainly the vocation and a noble career I have chosen for the years more to come. I am a fashion designer. And as my tag line says, "Passion for Fashion". Creating wedding apparels is something that entails somewhat a holistic approach. I admit that in this field that I have chosen, it can be a hit or miss thing. But someone like me who's been doing this for over two decades, missing can"t even be an option.
The internet is a powerful tool. Likewise are recommendations or as the common term as we say "word by mouth". I have always expressed my own way of gratefulness to people, clients, former brides , etc. who believed not just on my craft and aesthetics but to those who respects the way I handle their concerns. What a redundancy but then again I will and I am proud to say that I am a fashion designer with passion in creating bridal and other formal attires both for men and ladies. And because of this, I believe people come to us not just with the fact that nowadays people know what they want and they come to us for further deliberation of their choices and sometimes be ready to be given comments and even unsolicited advises from fashion designers like me who thinks otherwise. Its part of the professional undertaking and the aim is always postive.
A designer within his capacity and competency should be able to know, suggest and recommend a design silhouette for a bride that chooses us to be their privileged designer. Things have really evolved through the years. I have always come to respect the bride's choice and tries so hard to share my expertise in all aspects of having a clothing made. Some stubborn clients who thinks otherwise, or more of a wannabe designer can really be difficult for us. Sometimes my thoughts tickles me thinking that they should have gone to a seamstress instead and not feeling sorry for their ignorance.
I was raised well by my parents, along with the degree in Medicine that I earned, I learned to be pleasant, respectful, honest, sincere and to the medical side of it, treat every concern as urgent that should warrant immediate solution , focus and discipline. I work hard not just for the money but for my passion. I want to work that way and I shouldn't be regarded to some clothes businessmen who poses as fashion designers but in essence, there immediate priority is monetary gain. A rightful term as businessmen and not fashion designers.
Clients are important to all of us. Unfortunately some colleagues of mine has good and not so good disposition about their egos when their design aesthetics is at stake. Each one of us has the right to decide what disposition will it be for us designers.
We create magic with clients, though not to all as many clients have all their trusts given to their designers. But there can be monster clients. In the wedding industry in this country, they are tagged as bridezillas.
Do I need more to explain the term? I guess not. Stubborn , rude and attitudes with full of sarcasms are what we sometimes experience.
As a professional individual, I am shielded with my working contract . Shielded only to those who pretend that they know a lot where in fact, their ignorance, bullishness and aggressiveness might just cause a blood vessel spurt inyour brain from stresses that we do not need. This can be rare but the moment it hounds your day to day work, you loose your interest and inspiration. An intelligent designer may not take it personally and try to count the days as it draws near and finally its done and over. But beware! not all designers have the heart to be compassionate and understanding and could eventually make it for the client. With wedding concerns, I would say that most of my bride-clients , a good estimate of 90% are all based overseas and I never experience any form of harassment or stressful discussions with them. That's why more often, I feel a bit emotional because they would simply fly in a few days before their wedding day and the rapport and bonding is physically short though the e-mail correspondence had been most cordial and exciting.
Oh no! not all the time. I soon realized that Filipino bridezillas are scattered in this whole wide world. It becomes even more difficult to handle. But I can take it. So be it. I just have to face it head on. But not until I begin to feel that I am not treated right and my patience has all been used up.
"The customer is always right", what an outdated cliche! Respect is earned and can never be demanded. I am such a good soul. But sometimes your patience and understanding is really put to test. They can be either bully , stubborn, feeling almighty and omnipotent. My wish is that hopefully this people who gives us so much ordeals and worse may cross the line should be on the look out. We are paid to create what is commissioned for us to do and the amount does not include the quality of belittlement that these monsters extends to us. Let me state my case briefly, I am not a push-over, I know my job, I respond as urgently as a sent text shakes my mobile phone and I sincerely explain what should be shared .
Should I feel sorry for the pea brains of these clients when it comes to these concerns. I love peace and that is most definite. I can be sentimental every time a commissioned work is finished as I feel that the working relationship has come to an end and will be missing the kindness and maturity of majority of my wonderful clients.
Whether it is being done intentionally or part of their rude identity, be prepared to wreck it with me. I am a very rational individual wedding supplier. If you cross the line , my very long and wide divided line, or my patience should require a nasal prong on an oxygen tank, then I will not be the one to regret this inhumane attitude of rudeness. I can tolerate and tolerate very much. But I hope my patience is not placed in at so much risk. I am a decent designer- entrepreneur. My kindness should never be put to test many times. My humanity could be melted here and I will not allow it.
I am a good, kind, compassionate wedding supplier. I care about my job and I do it the best way possible at all times. Oh please, before you entrust your supposed hard earned earnings, make sure to read the contract very well. It could guide you accordingly and very well so that ideal manners are well-exchanged.
This is me and I am dedicated to my job.
