It was about an hour and a half before the clock strikes midnight to meet the year 2010. I was in my room surfing the net and tried to type my name over at google and out came a number list of topics about my craft. I came across this line and was amused to read a not so pleasant blog about me.
I learned that this blogger is a bride-elect whom I discovered blogging every details of her wedding from bridal events, to sourcing of suppliers, to her supplier shortlist, notes and appeared as an engrossed wannabe wedding review writer. Sooner than I realized, she turned out to be more of a sore bride-to-be who personally wrote a striking comment and description attempting to discredit my craft and making it appear that I was the wrong doer. The reference item came from this site, www.wedding4ish.blogspot.com, on her archive dated July 5, 2009.
(Now I hope this pathetic blogger realizes how I felt capturing her picture without permission)
Such brave and malicious commentary she wrote about me and even saying that she even spoke with me on a "supposed on the spot inquiry" only to criticize and discredit my integrity and credibility as an established designer in the wedding industry. Poor blogger, thinking that by blogging me indescretely, an outpouring of sentiments would vindicate her ignorance and irresponsible criticisms.
Its a pity this blogger does not know how to respect and observe the rights of an individual who without assimilating what transpired only to assert her callus ego insulting and blasting me in her blog. Irregardless of the hype status of a designer, it was very wrong for this blogger to put my name in an outright degradation considering of her ignorance of me and my establishment in the wedding industry. I have worked hard for this reputation and confident to say that I will be staying a lot longer in the industry as compared to this unfortunate blogger who claims of modesty and righteousness with intense ignorance and arrogance.
As she claimed that we prevented her "sister-in-law" May from taking pictures of our exhibit display, is our right to protect our property. Little do these people know how to respect the possession and rights of other people. Have they asked a courteous permission to take the pictures would have been a different story. Feeling that they were embarrassed because of our asking them not to take pictures, the arrogance of this blogger prevailed and took everything in her writing thinking that she was doing a modest "attention call", flattering my colleague designers and insulting my work. If indeed as she claimed that my gowns were not pretty (allegation), why then would they want to waste their precious clicks to capture my designs? Isn't that confusing?
SOME LESSONS TO BE LEARNED. 1) Learn to respect the property of other people. Not because we put our works in public display gives them the right to "steal" our property rights and use it for their own reference or material. I may have to speak for other suppliers in the industry like the florist, stylist, cake artist, invite printers, favor and souvenir suppliers, hair and make-up artist, etc. I may have realized this blogger is not used to attending exhibits where photos are not allowed to be taken whether there are notices for "no picture taking" or not. Still this sore blogger succeeded in taking photo of my booth and use it as her material in her blog to discredit me.
2) Be modest to ask permission to take photos and even be extensive enough to explain the purpose of the picture taking. Be prepared to be declined.
3) Learn to respect the disposition of an owner/supplier. It is their right to approve or not to approve of the request to take footage of their craft. Remember that picture taking with no permission is categorically considered to be "stealing".
4) Humility is modest and humane. Learn to accept people's minds on declaration and not turn reality to unfortunate lies.
5) Make sure to research on a supplier's identity before doing a subjective criticism. It pays to be really aware of a supplier's niche in the industry.
I rest my case. I hope they will be married the second time around, undergo the same preparation and be more sensitive next time. "Ignorance is not synonymous to Innocence".
As always, Chairmaine was a very pleasant bride-client. I am fortunate that she trusted me a hundred per cent with the design and style of her wedding dress.
I was so happy of the turn out and she appreciated the dress very much as well. I am thankful for having Charmaine as one of my overseas bride-clients. It was smoothly carried out.
